Thoughts on Leaving 1

14 Mar

You spend years working for a company…you work late hours, you work weekends…you cancel vacations, miss your kid’s school play…arrive late for your anniversary dinner…because you want to give your best, because you love the place, and the people you work with, because they keep telling you that you are the only one…

When Management break their promises of future glory to you, you are told to “be mature, be professional”, and accept the disappointments…your comments for improvement are ignored, or ridiculed…

And then when you decide to leave, you get to hear things like, “you’re leaving anyway, so what is it to you?”, and “i’m hurt…if you had a problem, why did you not speak to me if you had a problem”

It doesn’t just stop at that. All of a sudden, you get treated like a traitor…your boss bad-mouths you to your peers…and people (who you thought were your friends) ignore you in the hallways…


* Triggered by what I have seen people do to someone who’s leaving…and memories of how it was for me when I quit my last job!

** This will run as a series…since I seem to have a lot of these stuck in my head at the moment! 🙂


Posted by on March 14, 2007 in Career, Thoughts


4 responses to “Thoughts on Leaving 1

  1. S Nand

    March 15, 2007 at 2:11 pm

    We all have become mechanical ,perhaps,in the organizational working .Everything is based on what can you do for me? In these circumstances emotions get a backseat .Am reminded of pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Blame is always associated with me.
    Also greater the pain ,greater the learning.People,who work with their hearts,in these mechanised organizations and systems,are always subjected to greater risk of getting hurt.
    But if we are giving our hearts away,we do so because we love what we are doing for living.
    Divorce and leaving organizations have many similarities.Even in divorce ,one can maintain
    links with siblings.Same is true for people in organizations,we can leave organizations but keep our bonds with people.This can not eliminate pain but give happiness and so we pass through pain without suffering. After 11 years,when I ,visited my work place,i ,got all these feelings of love,happiness,respect,care and satisfaction.Could be,we can now be working for
    collecting memories and not momentoes.A great challenge now as emotional bondages are under strain in all areas,whether work, family or society.But, only what is challenging,is worth being done.

  2. Little Miss Muffet

    March 17, 2007 at 8:28 pm

    ohh..yes, that is something we always hear at the end- “if you had a problem, why didn’t u tell me?” Sometimes it’s the way management deals with the small things that lets u know if they will really respond to ur problems..and if not,then why stay on?

  3. Just Mohit

    March 18, 2007 at 9:30 pm

    Yes Little Miss Muffet, the funny thing is they have turned a blind eye & a deaf ear to all your complaints for years, and then they’ll turn around & ask this!
    The small things are always the ones which count, aren’t they? After all, doing the right thing when it comes to big issues is always easy!

  4. bush is satan

    April 18, 2008 at 3:23 am

    When we surrender all our rights to corporations by allowing these evil entities to have taken total control of our government, what else would you expect? Everything is going to roll downhill, and we are at the bottom of that hill. Until we take control away from those who enslave us, we are what?


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